If you really love your husband, you wouldn't post nor tell anyone that ''I wish my husband would realize this'', or ''My husband seriously needs to learn this good behavior!''.
How would you feel if your husband posted such comments and you saw them? Not only hurt but this goes to show that if you truly love the spouse, seek advise from marriage counselors instead of ranting about your spouse's defects. Remember to use a mirror next time.
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Understand how beautifully ALLAH swt has added one more day in your life - not because you need it, but because someone else needs you. =)
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Many Muslims tell me that they feel unappreciated. Sisters feel unappreciated by their husbands, children, parents. Brothers feel unappreciated by their wives, children, family, employer. Children feel unappreciated by their parents. Parents feel unappreciated by their children. Well, here's a viewpoint.
To feel unappreciated, you must be seeking the appreciation, thankfulness, gratefulness of PEOPLE, and they don't express it well enough for you.
As Muslims, we need to think about WHY we do things. Are we acting to get appreciation from those around us, or are we acting to fulfill our duty to Allah, subhaana wa taala, and earn His pleasure? Truly, can we ever feel unappreciated by Allah, azza wa jal? His reward system is overwhelming! His incentives for obeying Him are irresistable!
It is reported that Al-Fudayl b. ‘Ayyâd said:
If you can be unknown, be so; it doesn’t matter if you are not known and it doesn’t matter if you are not praised. It doesn’t matter if you are blameworthy according to people if you are praiseworthy with Allâh the Mighty and Majestic.
Al-Bayhaqî, Al-Zuhd Al-Kabîr p100.
Masha'Allah, I never feel unappreciated because I perform my acts to please Allah, as part of my "Jennah account". And I always try to show appreciation to others who are fulfilling their duties to Allah because I remember the hadith that the one who doesn't thank the people, hasn't thanked Allah. It ends up being a circle; I feel appreciated and I show appreciation.
Bottom line: do everything to earn Allah's pleasure alone, including giving thanks for all the good that is done for you. Then you will find that you are shown appreciation both from Allah and the people, insha'Allah.
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"A mother is not to be compared with another person-she is incomparable."
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Patience is not just about how long one can wait.. it's the behavior of one that counts while waiting..
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Don't compare your life to others, they aren't you.
Set focus on your own journey... What becomes of you is your choice...
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"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart."
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a successful relationship requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Always with the same person, but deeper and deeper every time
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Ingredients to a great relationship: Love, Respect, Trust, and Communication. If one is missing, then your lying to yourself about how good you have it.
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The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Shall I not tell you whom the (Hell) Fire is forbidden to touch? It is forbidden to touch a man who is always accessible, having polite and tender nature.” [Sunan At-Tirmidhi]
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PATIENCE and FAITHFULNESS are the stepping stones of a never-ending RELATIONSHIP..
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"being simple is the most perfect way to make someone fall in love with you."
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Life Is Really Beautiful ..:')
Sometimes in life you feel so blue
but remember, someone, somewhere in the world shares more grief than you.
Far at the border when a soldier sleeps
missing his loved ones, he silently weeps.
Somewhere a mother painfully sighs
because her newborn baby didn't open its eyes.
Somewhere a poor dad silently cries
seeing his son begging a bowl of rice.
In an orphanage a little girl/boy is sad
when she/he misses her/his mom and dad.
When reason to smile you may not have any
just say to yourself that you are the happier than many.
Because “LIFE IS REALLY BEAUTIFUL” and not always blue
and someone, somewhere is not happy as you.
So always Thank Allah for everything!!
Alhamdulillah :')
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Relationships are not about forcing each other to stay together, they are about giving everything to stay together.
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love is unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. to love somebody isn't just a strong feeling, it is a decision, a judgement, and a promise.
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10 Little Ways To Show Your Husband You Care
Here is my list (that I have not mastered, by the way) of things to do (and not do) for your husband to let him know you care.
1.Let him know you are his biggest fan. Tell him how great he is, how much you appreciate the little things he does to help you (no matter how small) , and how much he’s loved. I am not suggesting you lie. If you are not his biggest fan, you should be!
2.It is best to avoid asking questions such as “What are you thinking about, honey?”
3.Always speak highly of him to others. Don’t call up your best friend to tell her about his latest stupid mistake.
4.Don’t cut him down. It may be tempting to tell him exactly what you think of him during an argument, but hold your tongue. Deep down, somewhere , you love this man, and shredding him to bits will only make the situation worse. Don’t remind him of his weaknesses at every opportunity. Most men are fully aware of their weaknesses and do not need reminding.
5.Be quick to apologize for snapping at him when you are tired and cranky.
6.Listen to what he has to say. This may include topics that you neither understand nor care to be enlightened about, such as the rules of fantasy football or a comparison of programming codes.
7.Although it is widely believed that men are dogs, don’t treat him like one. Don’t attempt to keep him on a short leash, or even long chain. I know the idea of a shock collar (as used in dog training ) is appealing, but really, he’s a big boy now.
8.Appreciate who he is and don’t try to change him. You knew who he was when you married him. Trying to make him into something different is: A. a waste of your time because it will not work and B. just annoying . He was flawless in your eyes when you first met. Is he really not good enough now? I know, you have grown and changed and expanded. Let him appreciate you, but stay the same.
9.Encourage his hobbies, even if you aren’t fond of them. My husband loves motorcycles. People are always saying things like “I can’t believe your wife let you have a bike”and “How could you let him do that?”Let him? That’s not how it is supposed to work. He is my husband, not my child. Yes, I worry. I ask him call to check in. I also love to see the smile on his face when returns safely from a nice long ride.
10.Don’t make fun of his team, even if they always lose. It is likely that your husband has been programmed since birth to be a fan of a particular sports team. This rule additionally applies to Star Trek and Star Wars fans. If your husband is still a fan of the band KISS, then you have permission to go wild with abuse.
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You can never choose what you get in the life, but you can choose how it affects your life :D
How would you feel if your husband posted such comments and you saw them? Not only hurt but this goes to show that if you truly love the spouse, seek advise from marriage counselors instead of ranting about your spouse's defects. Remember to use a mirror next time.
********************************************
Understand how beautifully ALLAH swt has added one more day in your life - not because you need it, but because someone else needs you. =)
********************************************
Many Muslims tell me that they feel unappreciated. Sisters feel unappreciated by their husbands, children, parents. Brothers feel unappreciated by their wives, children, family, employer. Children feel unappreciated by their parents. Parents feel unappreciated by their children. Well, here's a viewpoint.
To feel unappreciated, you must be seeking the appreciation, thankfulness, gratefulness of PEOPLE, and they don't express it well enough for you.
As Muslims, we need to think about WHY we do things. Are we acting to get appreciation from those around us, or are we acting to fulfill our duty to Allah, subhaana wa taala, and earn His pleasure? Truly, can we ever feel unappreciated by Allah, azza wa jal? His reward system is overwhelming! His incentives for obeying Him are irresistable!
It is reported that Al-Fudayl b. ‘Ayyâd said:
If you can be unknown, be so; it doesn’t matter if you are not known and it doesn’t matter if you are not praised. It doesn’t matter if you are blameworthy according to people if you are praiseworthy with Allâh the Mighty and Majestic.
Al-Bayhaqî, Al-Zuhd Al-Kabîr p100.
Masha'Allah, I never feel unappreciated because I perform my acts to please Allah, as part of my "Jennah account". And I always try to show appreciation to others who are fulfilling their duties to Allah because I remember the hadith that the one who doesn't thank the people, hasn't thanked Allah. It ends up being a circle; I feel appreciated and I show appreciation.
Bottom line: do everything to earn Allah's pleasure alone, including giving thanks for all the good that is done for you. Then you will find that you are shown appreciation both from Allah and the people, insha'Allah.
*****************************************
"A mother is not to be compared with another person-she is incomparable."
*****************************************
Patience is not just about how long one can wait.. it's the behavior of one that counts while waiting..
*****************************************
Don't compare your life to others, they aren't you.
Set focus on your own journey... What becomes of you is your choice...
*****************************************
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart."
*****************************************
a successful relationship requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Always with the same person, but deeper and deeper every time
*****************************************
Ingredients to a great relationship: Love, Respect, Trust, and Communication. If one is missing, then your lying to yourself about how good you have it.
*****************************************
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Shall I not tell you whom the (Hell) Fire is forbidden to touch? It is forbidden to touch a man who is always accessible, having polite and tender nature.” [Sunan At-Tirmidhi]
*****************************************
PATIENCE and FAITHFULNESS are the stepping stones of a never-ending RELATIONSHIP..
*****************************************
"being simple is the most perfect way to make someone fall in love with you."
*****************************************
Life Is Really Beautiful ..:')
Sometimes in life you feel so blue
but remember, someone, somewhere in the world shares more grief than you.
Far at the border when a soldier sleeps
missing his loved ones, he silently weeps.
Somewhere a mother painfully sighs
because her newborn baby didn't open its eyes.
Somewhere a poor dad silently cries
seeing his son begging a bowl of rice.
In an orphanage a little girl/boy is sad
when she/he misses her/his mom and dad.
When reason to smile you may not have any
just say to yourself that you are the happier than many.
Because “LIFE IS REALLY BEAUTIFUL” and not always blue
and someone, somewhere is not happy as you.
So always Thank Allah for everything!!
Alhamdulillah :')
****************************************
Relationships are not about forcing each other to stay together, they are about giving everything to stay together.
****************************************
love is unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. to love somebody isn't just a strong feeling, it is a decision, a judgement, and a promise.
****************************************
10 Little Ways To Show Your Husband You Care
Here is my list (that I have not mastered, by the way) of things to do (and not do) for your husband to let him know you care.
1.Let him know you are his biggest fan. Tell him how great he is, how much you appreciate the little things he does to help you (no matter how small) , and how much he’s loved. I am not suggesting you lie. If you are not his biggest fan, you should be!
2.It is best to avoid asking questions such as “What are you thinking about, honey?”
3.Always speak highly of him to others. Don’t call up your best friend to tell her about his latest stupid mistake.
4.Don’t cut him down. It may be tempting to tell him exactly what you think of him during an argument, but hold your tongue. Deep down, somewhere , you love this man, and shredding him to bits will only make the situation worse. Don’t remind him of his weaknesses at every opportunity. Most men are fully aware of their weaknesses and do not need reminding.
5.Be quick to apologize for snapping at him when you are tired and cranky.
6.Listen to what he has to say. This may include topics that you neither understand nor care to be enlightened about, such as the rules of fantasy football or a comparison of programming codes.
7.Although it is widely believed that men are dogs, don’t treat him like one. Don’t attempt to keep him on a short leash, or even long chain. I know the idea of a shock collar (as used in dog training ) is appealing, but really, he’s a big boy now.
8.Appreciate who he is and don’t try to change him. You knew who he was when you married him. Trying to make him into something different is: A. a waste of your time because it will not work and B. just annoying . He was flawless in your eyes when you first met. Is he really not good enough now? I know, you have grown and changed and expanded. Let him appreciate you, but stay the same.
9.Encourage his hobbies, even if you aren’t fond of them. My husband loves motorcycles. People are always saying things like “I can’t believe your wife let you have a bike”and “How could you let him do that?”Let him? That’s not how it is supposed to work. He is my husband, not my child. Yes, I worry. I ask him call to check in. I also love to see the smile on his face when returns safely from a nice long ride.
10.Don’t make fun of his team, even if they always lose. It is likely that your husband has been programmed since birth to be a fan of a particular sports team. This rule additionally applies to Star Trek and Star Wars fans. If your husband is still a fan of the band KISS, then you have permission to go wild with abuse.
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You can never choose what you get in the life, but you can choose how it affects your life :D
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